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How To Be Unhappy
A detailed guide with 5 proven scientific theories and facts!Unhappiness is the reason for our meaningful existence. It is the addiction of the hour. If you’re not unhappy once in a while, are you even living right? Yes, you! You need to ask yourself today, “Am I unhappy enough?, What will people think if I am only happy!? Like I have reasons to be happy? Won’t they judge me for not having to struggle with anxiety, fear, toxic relationships? What should I be doing to be unhappier?”……
Your problem has a tarunified solution. Intrigued enough ? Enlightening you today with some on-point, experienced, well researched, tried & tested methods to be unhappy.
1. The Overthink-Tank
This method was developed 2,000 years ago (supposedly) by a Russian Psychologist named Taakldjdskfs Rukewgfjbsdov. (Yeah, I can’t pronounce it either. It’s like somebody just typed random alphabets! Poor kid!) The Overthink-Tank was created by keeping the heart, soul, body, mind and spirit of human being together, to be controlled all at once by a magical tool called Assumption. This tool is used in different forms in various subjects like mathematics, physics, literature & life. Mr. Rukewgfjbsdov used it in Life, as mathematics, physics and literature weren’t difficult enough for him to challenge his intelligence! So what he did was to sit still in isolation, in dark mostly and analyse a situation that had happened 5 years ago in his life and think about it over and over and over until he start doubting everything about himself.
There is another way he mentioned where the tool of assumption works best in the overthink tank – It is to think about a situation in your life right now, take any scenario and assume the worst out of it (it can be future or present, but won’t work on past case scenarios, past is useless in the overthink tank. Future is proven to be the best). So once you’ve assumed the best, worst case scenario, you have entered the overthink tank. You won’t want to come out of it once you enjoy the unhappiness it causes.
2. The Dream-Destruction Theory
This sounds destructive (because it is called that! jeeezz!). The dream-destruction theory was developed by someone we don’t know, but, it states that, “Any person who has dreams shall not follow them until that person is stuck doing something they don’t want to do.” Moreover, the kid wanted to say, DON’T FOLLOW YOUR HEART. FOLLOW YOUR PARENTS/FRIENDS. Basically, become a sheep.
This theory can be practised in various forms, but it should start on early in life. The reasons you can take to follow this theory can be – Not having enough skills, not having money, parents not supporting you, procrastinating, not working hard enough and so on. These reasons are scientifically proven to destruct any dream goal you have. Another way to attain unhappiness!!
3. The ‘Giving-A-Damn’ Potion
There was once this lady in around the 1400s and she was the spy of the neighbourhood. One day, she met another lady and they met a man and they all met another man and they formed a gang and called themselves, “4 Log” (4 People)…. Hence, started the wrath of the 4 log gang everywhere!!! Parents used their name to scare their children, Teenagers committed suicide in their name, women sacrificed and tolerated worst things for their sake. They became a Legend. People started following them like blind. But what was the secret? How so quickly, they became gods to their fellow humans?
It was “The Giving-A-Damn” Potion. the 4 log gang created a potion mixing up ingredients like – gossip, hatred, jealousy, negative vibes, envy and made people drink it…….. Rest. Is. History. You can find that potion anywhere these days, it’s an accessible and extremely effective method to be unhappy.
4. The Drama Leaks Summit
The Drama Leaks Summit happens in every few months with people having maximum number of gossips and toxic people in life. In the summit, all the gossip kings and queens get together and surround the person with “who’s who/what” proposals. The person then looks for reasons in the proposal to be coming to this summit. Until the person finds none, the drama leaks summit goes on and the person remains stuck with drama and negativity, resulting in unhappiness. Science has proven this summit to be one of the most impactful event to be unhappy.
5. The Validation Task Force
The Validation Task Force, by the name of it, is the force that thrives inside us for approval of or by others. This task force gets into action every time we post something online or spend thousands on our appearances (for people who only care about themselves). The validation and approvals of strangers, friends, family or even a man who is already too-into-his-looks or a woman who posts-pictures-where-she-looks-the-best, are utter importance for this task force’s existence. Thus, resulting in fear, self-hate, more money spent and mental health issues, a.k.a. Unhappiness.
Here were the TOP 5 methods to be unhappy. You can share more in the comment section or email me.
P.S. The post is the writer’s imagination and has no real life significance whatsoever. If you somehow relate to it, well that’s on you.
Thanks for reading. Namaste.
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Daydreams & Us
Sometimes I open my laptop and start typing. Words just come in like how in a factory, products are being packed one by one! Yet, some other times, I struggle to put my thoughts into words like I’ve forgotten the recipe! Oh please! It is hard to find ideas to write on or create something out, it’s a brain not really a factory!!! But IT’S A BRAIN, NOT A FACTORY! EUREKA!
Millions of years ago, when homo sapiens had some other companions on earth and a fight for survival of the fittest was marching on, homo sapiens (our ancestors) survived even after being a bit weaker than the rest! How? Or should I say WHY!? Yuval Noah Harari wrote in his best-selling book Sapiens, “The ability to speak about fictions/ things that do not exist is the most unique feature of Sapiens language”. He calls it The Cognitive Revolution. We don’t know what caused it, yet it was the way we were different from rest of the species. We created stories, imaginable spirit guides and entertained ourselves. The ability to imagine got us through.
To imagine is not always fun because as we’ve grown, we have learnt to imagine the worst case scenarios as well – resulting in mental health issues!!! But, to Day-dream is different than imagining. We imagine only when needed but we day-dream when nothing at all is needed. It’s a fact that day-dreaming is a healthy brain exercise. We daydream when our brain is free of all the other things that keeps us occupied. For example, a meeting or a project. May be a date or relationships. Things that worry us or makes us think and use our brain more and more comes from different parts of the brain. Analytical & Empathetic brain-both are different. Day-Dreaming involves the use of all the areas of the brain combined except these two. During daydreaming, analytical and empathetic parts of the brain turn each other off! Mainly, when we day-dream all the parts of our brain are active, except these two, which is why we feel extremely relaxed.
It is also a fact that day dreaming makes us more creative. May be that’s why I am writing this, because I day dream like 50% of the time!!! It gives us new ways to express ourselves. So, yay.. Also, We tend to day dream less as we get older, so embrace this gift while you can!!! But another fact is- We day dream on purpose..Obviously, because we want to feel relaxed and we know we’re free to take a break… That might be the reason why we tend to work more enthusiastically after day dreaming… It’s like recharging our creative sides. As our brain controls our day dreams not our minds, I called it an effective brain exercise.
“The cost of oblivious daydreaming was always this moment of return, the realignment with what had been before and now seemed a little worse. ”
― Ian McEwan, Atonement.It’s not always flowers and sunshine though! Is it?! Sometimes reality is so awful that we tend to escape in the imaginary world! Some researchers have proposed Maladaptive Daydreaming (or daydreaming that causes real problems in people’s lives) as a mental health disorder. They reported more obsessive-compulsive, attention deficit, and dissociative symptoms. Basically, the people who tend to daydream A LOT should stop doing it because it might be affecting their REAL lives as well. It causes distress and dissatisfaction! So beware of what your brain is exercising with.
To sum up- Daydreaming has been my favourite pass time for years. But now that I think about the time I wasted on that, could have been used for something productive may be. But- I grew more creative over time too! So it has it’s pros and cons. I tend to focus on the pros and keep it under a limit.
What do you think? Are you in control of your daydreaming or do you have any incident to share!? Comment below.
Also, Thanks for reading. Namaste.
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Why It Is Important For Us To Talk Heart To Heart
Remember? The nights of utter silence. The days of extreme presence and the evenings with true stories…. I remember each and every moment, where I lived my 100%, in the moment. I remember them because I WANT TO. Now I don’t get the moments where I don’t THINK! If you’re the same, you know what I am trying to say.
I still remember playing basketball with my best friends. I miss it everyday. I still remember the long walks on rainy days and the loud laughters in between the say! I still find treasure in my memories when I told my best friend that, “Hey! You’re my Best Friend”… And can never forget how she said the same. It was in 11th standard during a free class. It was my first heart to heart with her. I realised how important it has been for me…
I have told the people that I LOVE them so many times, that I am pretty sure they might start doubting that I do! But how it feels after you say it, is like therapy. I understand, sometimes it’s troublesome. Your true emotions are hard to express. That is why you keep them locked inside the chamber of secrets. Yet, there is always a Harry, who’ll open it once he knows the language…! (Potter-heads having an orgasm right now?! You’re welcome.) I had trouble too. I started writing. Blogging. Talking…. Well, I love talking if I want to! Especially when it is heart to heart. Still. I do talk. So, Ask yourselves this, “When was the last time I had an heart to heart conversation with ANYONE for that matter?”! Your answer may lie in that frown you just made! Or may be in the smile of satisfaction! Any which way it is, an heart to heart is important.
Here’s why:
It Keeps You Happier
I don’t need to elaborate on this. You know you feel happier or better whenever you share feelings with someone. it’s a basic human need. That’s why we love! We have companions, friends and family. They make us happy. When you go heart to heart with them, you know they won’t judge you and will accept you as you are. That makes you feel happier. So, go now, talk to someone and tell them whatever it is you want to say. It’s better than wasting it inside yourself!!
It Gives You “Your Tribe”
This one’s also a no brainer. You choose friends, they choose you. The choice isn’t based on any demographics, it is based on the connection. With the heart to heart talks, you find your tribe too. You know the true ones who’ll be there for you no matter what. You can cry in front of them and tell them that you’re hurt and they’ll love you more. You can get drunk with them and they’ll hold you. They accept you and you accept them.
It Keeps You Grounded
Yes, it does. When you talk heart to heart with people, there’s no place for pretending or lies. There’s no room to hold grudges. Whatever is inside your head, you’ve shared it out, which is why you become more understanding of people and their behaviour. You care more and that keeps you honest and grounded.
You Find Yourself
This is the most important outcome of going heart to heart with people. When you share your heart and listen to other’s, you become aware of emotions you weren’t before. You start understanding yourself. You realise the repercussions of all your actions, even before you take them. You analyse things better , your approach to things become more practical. Your EQ (Emotional Quotient) is higher which makes you mature and responsible towards people and yourself. The self-awareness you get makes you serious about the things that YOU want. You find yourself in the process. The greatest gift of an heart to heart is to find ourselves!
The greatest gift of an heart to heart is to find ourselves!
These were some reasons to go heart to heart today. I know there are more. If you find any of yours, please share them in the comments below. If you think people should talk more heart to heart, share this with them.
Thanks for reading. Namaste.
This is such an insightful perspective. It’s true—no matter how much we engage with others, our minds are constantly processing,…
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Indeed! Thank you.